Sometimes, just a simple shift in our dialog can make a big impact. Substituting a few words can slowly feed our sub-conscious, (and self-conscious) selves more positive messages. We really have enough guilt and regrets in our lives that we don't need to add to that ongoing internal conversation.
Don't believe me? Give it a shot yourself!
Replace SHOULD with COULD. I should call Mom today...to ..I could call Mom today. I should throw a load of laundry in...to... I could throw a load of laundry in. I should pay the bills today ...to.. I could pay the bills today. Just saying it out loud is very powerful.
BTW this works with I should've and I shouldn't have too!
Instead of HAVE to ...say you GET to! I get to call Mom today! Yes, you get to because your Mom is still around to call. I get to do laundry today. Yes that is the joy of having clean clothes and again if washing for others, consider yourself lucky that you are not alone. I get to pay bills today, because you are blessed with money to pay the bills!
Use ..Won't instead of Can't. Oh I can't do that Pilates move! ;) Just say you won't and then don't.
Say "Will"or "Am" rather than TRY. I am going to try and eat more healthy.. so when you don't succeed well you get to feed that failure mode. When you are ready to do it, then you start that day and do it. I changed ''I am going to learn a foreign language" with "I am learning a foreign language and I will keep learning until I master that new language!" Wow, what a different thought process started to happen. Daebak!
I don't care..can be, I don't mind. I don't care seems like, well you don't care! Oh this works wonders with family and spouses. When deciding where to dine, or what to watch on TV. What movie to see etc. What a shift in the energy happens when you change this one word in a conversation.
Are you are starting to see the difference? The power of words, the power of our thoughts. We can empower ourselves and change from being victims of our circumstances to that of someone having choices.
One of the most powerful ad campaigns is Just Do IT. What have you got to lose by giving it a go!